Indirect utilitarianism states that not everything is a moral question. You will not maximise happiness, Mill says, by maximising utility, but by attaching yourself to projects, people, and activities. Utility is a guiding principle for society, not a way of assessing everything we do in our lives. Get something to do, someone to love, something to enjoy, and you will become happy. Utility is not the one-and-only moral decider.

EA and moral hygiene on the Ruffian by Henry Oliver.

This quote chimes with what Viktor Frankl said: life asks you the question. Experiences, relationships, creative works and suffering. It is you that lives in this world, and you that has to respond.